The End is sometimes the Beginning

I can’t think of how the story was supposed to end.  All the stars were aligned for it to be a happily every after.  Then one day cancer came.  The happily ever after became “we are going to beat this and make it through”, and life was fully focused on beating cancer.  That didn’t happen.  My friend Amy lost her battle with cancer 8 weeks ago.  I was sad, her friends were sad, but her husband was devastated.  How could he not be? This wasn’t the love story they had waited for.   Then Friday the story changed again, the husband died.  Suddenly, shockingly, he died.  Oh how I wish this was just a story, but it’s not.  It’s real life.  It happened to my friends Jeff and Amy.

Jeff and I had been friends since the early 90’s when we met at Lee College (now Lee University).  I honestly don’t remember how we met.  We didn’t have classes together, and he wasn’t in the music program.  I don’t know how we met, but we did.  It was part of God’s design.  He became my best friend.  I was crazy about him, totally “in love”, but we were just meant to be friends.  Best Friends.  We went to movies, stayed up late talking on the phone, chatting at the Student Union, we were together a lot.  He was the best part of college!  After I left Lee, we remained close friends.  He came to visit me in Indiana, and I went to Georgia to see him.  We went to Six Flags together and listened to great music and watched movies all weekend long.  He was the best!  He was funny, and smart and good looking and I was blessed to be his friend.

He and Amy didn’t have forever on this earth.  They were only married a couple of years.  Cancer separated them.  Jeff’s heart was completely broken.  His soulmate was gone and he was struggling to adjust to the new normal.  Then Friday his stepson came home and found him dead.  Talk about shocking, talk about unreal, it’s all I can do to type the words.

I find comfort knowing that Amy and Jeff are in heaven together.  While it’s the end of their love story on earth, in heaven it’s just the Beginning!  I love you Jeff and Amy, and one day I’ll see you again!

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C.S. Lewis said

“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.”

When words aren’t needed

A week or so ago I captured this picture of my son.

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Lost in his own world playing with Legos.  The house could have toppled around him and he wouldn’t have cared!  He was in his world.  We had just recently purchased a bunch of plain blocks, not in any set, just building blocks and he was having a time.  He was looking at the pictures on the box and recreating what he saw.  No words, no instructions, just look and build!  Isn’t that what Legos are all about?  Letting children (and adults) step into the world of imagination and just build!  I know Seth is a visual learner, most kids with Autism are, but here he was just a typical kid playing with Legos.  It’s rare to find something that bridges the typical into the Autism world, but Legos have done it!  He could sit, or perch, as he is in this picture, for hours on end and create until his imagination runs out of ideas.  Knowing my son, that will be never!

Sad news

I haven’t posted in awhile and I should have update ya’ll.  My sweet friend Amy passed away on June 24, 2014.  While she is no longer with us her spirt will remain.  She was a strong woman and a sweet friend.  I’m a better person for knowing her.  Please keep her family and friends in your thoughts and prayers!

Calling all prayer warriors!


Calling all prayer warriors online now would you please stop and take a moment and pray for my friend Amy?  I don’t have a lot of details, but God knows the need.  Amy is fighting stage 4 colon cancer.  She has been in the hospital since Tuesday and at this point they have called the family together.  Please hold her in prayer.  Her family and I trust God’s perfect will to be done. They just need our prayers right now!

Thank you all!

All about Amy

I thought long and hard about this title, I wasn’t sure what to say.  I wanted it to catch your eye, and make you want to read my post.  I don’t want you to read this post for me.  I know that’s weird, it’s my blog and it’s about my life and so on, but this post is different.  This post is about a friend of mine who is fighting for her life.  My friend Amy has stage 4 colon cancer.  She’s fighting hard and she’s been doing great!  At this point in time all of the tumors are in her liver now.  Let me go back and tell you how I met Amy. In the early 90’s I attended Lee College (now Lee University,  Go Flames!), and I met this great guy named Jeff.  I will admit I was totally smitten by him.  As time went on our friendship developed and he became my best friend.  We could talk for hours about almost nothing and we certainly bonded over movies!  It was such a great time in my life!  I left Lee, and Jeff and I kept in touch, then life happened and we lost touch.  A few years ago, thanks to Facebook we got back in touch!  That’s when I met Amy!  Jeff and Amy were dating and she and I clicked right away.  Fast forward a year and Jeff and Amy were married.  You see Jeff and Amy had known each other in grade school, and had been boyfriend and girlfriend then, and again, life happened, they went their separate ways and lived their lives.  Then they reconnected and fell in love!  Don’t ya just love a great romance? 2014-06-09 21.17.01  I love this picture from their wedding! I was working in Semi Pro Basketball in 2013 and I was in Nashville and we finally got to meet face to face!  It was at the lunch I knew we would be friends forever! It was shortly after that lunch that Amy was diagnosed with Stage 4 Colon Cancer. She was told she was going to die within a very short period of time…but guess what?  She didn’t!  God had bigger plans.  God still has bigger plans!  Amy has fought this cancer with grace and courage. don’t misunderstand she has been angry, sad, afraid and so many other emotions, but through it all she has shown grace and courage!  She is a fighter.  She and Jeff are fighting this ugly cancer and they have every intention of winning!   2014-06-09 21.15.12 Amy fighting cancer with chemo!  GO AMY!   So you may ask why I am writing this post.  Why am I blogging about Amy?  Well here is why.  Amy is facing more chemotherapy.  This time the chemo is going to cost $30,000.  Yes she has health insurance but we all know that’s not going to cover it all.  The fact is this, Amy needs our help financially.    Amy needs to concentrate on fighting cancer and so I established a Go Fund Me account to help them out! So here’s what I’m asking, check out Amy’s fundraising page.  If you can donate, if not will you please share her page.  Everyone needs help at some point in life.  It may be physical, it may be spiritual, and in this case it’s financial.  Please help Amy kick cancer’s butt!  This is Amy’s Go Fund Me page, even if you cannot donate, please share her page and please, above all, keep her and her family in your prayers!  We are all believing for a miracle for Amy! Amy

Forever and a Day….

Yep that’s how long it’s been since I last blogged.  There are many reasons, the main reason is my computer is wacky.  The cursor jumps around and I spend more time correcting words than I do blogging!  The other reason is that life is crazy and I just haven’t made time for my blog.  But I’m making another attempt tonight.  I guess my biggest thing is I don’t know what direction I want to take this blog. I can’t decide if I want to focus on weight loss, Autism, or just life in general.  I lean to just life in general because those things are all part of my life

So here’s the update on the weight loss.  I’ve stalled.  I’ve fallen off the wagon and it has rolled over me!  But because I refuse to give up I’m starting back on Monday June 2nd!  I have a focused plan and I am going to stick with it.  I’ve changed how I think about it and have recommitted to getting healthy.  Shakeology will be a part of my plan as well as clean eating and exercise.  I am going to start swimming at the YMCA that is opening in our community June 1st!  I’m really excited about this!

As for Autism, it still rules our home.  Since school has been out Seth seems to have a lot to say.  He’s talking a lot and asking so many more questions.  He was just waiting for school to get out to let loose and have conversations!  We are looking for a new plan for his education because we aren’t happy with where he is.  I have a plan to work with all the kids this summer to help them get stronger and ready for their next grade!

As for life in general well it’s busy.  My husband has been in the hospital for some kidney issues.  My kids are all out of school for the summer and things are getting crazy at home!  I have lots of plans for summer and I’m hoping for it to be great!